Category: Life Lessons

Reason, Season or Lifetime?

Reason, Season or Lifetime?

Ahhhhh relationships…for me I have learned to measure every human interaction with this question: is this person here for a reason, a season or a lifetime? It is an incredibly valuable question even though my actions never seem to change depending on my sub-conscious response. Whether at the beginning of the “thing” or the perceived end, I always commit…I know nothing less.

To contextualize, I will dance around a few songs…my happy place…

Reasons, the reasons that we hear
The reasons that we fear
Our feelings that won’t disappear, ooh
And after the love game has been played
All our illusions were just a parade
And all the reasons start to fade
La, la, la, la
After all our reasons why
All the reasons were a why
After all the reasons love was left aside

Ok…there are the strong sexual references but that notwithstanding the thought that love was cast aside, is both troubling and liberating. For me, love next to wisdom is a life principle that leads to God. It is a gift and I love the mutuality of it…

Some dreams are in the night time
And some seem like yesterday
But leaves turn brown and fade
Ships sail away
You long to say a thousand words
But seasons change
It feels like it’s forever
No reason for emptiness
But time just runs away
No more day by day
You dream again it seems in vain
When seasons change
Seasons are why I love living in the Northeast. Inevitable and necessary, you can anticipate the beginning and the end and new beginnings when there are seasons. Seasons cultivate healthy anticipation of newness, freshness and gradual evolution and decay.

Once in a lifetime you find a love you can’t let go
Once in a lifetime you find the purpose to live on
Once in a lifetime you find the meaning of your dreams
And once in a lifetime you find the one who gives life meaning
Once in a lifetime you find a love you know is real
Once in a lifetime you find something that makes your song live
Once in a lifetime you find a friendship that’s worth the wait
Once in a lifetime you find joy you can’t replace



Then the eternality of lifetime…as humans, we are not promised tomorrow so the concept is amazing to even contemplate, and yet somehow, we imagine spending our lifetime with someone or doing something. We are so fickle and child-like which is why the only thing that ever fulfills this awesome responsibility of sticking around for a lifetime is not human at all.


For now and forever, I will celebrate all of this and more. I will celebrate the reasons, seasons and “lifetimes” I have with people. The challenging days, the easy days, the quiet days, the noisy days, the joys and disappointments–all of them make me better. They all lead to #Purpose.

I am grateful.