I am reading two books—gifts—slowly
Sipping them like a
Strong drink or a hot beverage
That has the power to wound or to heal…
I am reading two books—challenges—slowly
With sorrow for the here and now
Of this moment
With sadness and loss close and distant…
Exposes the truths and hurts of being vulnerable
You are your best thing.
In conversation with each other I understand this message of grief that is good…
The list, perhaps a checklist of reminders, keep me…
- We are not alone in our grief; those in authority and those in association with us are also grieving
- Grief is a choice and a key to a growth mindset
- Grief is a healthy response to loss and disappointment; denying loss causes many to get stuck (or sick and tired)
- Grief helps us make transitions in life
- Grief is healed in community
- Grief takes time
- Grief is a key to spiritual growth
Balanced with reminders about all the things, I wish I could have done
Arms thought weak are always strong enough to hold
Dear ones close and distant…
Regret, an emotional response to the revelation that I just got in my own way
Regret is neither good nor bad
Regret is a thinking pattern of revisiting things that cannot be revised
And yet it is…
I dedicate these morning thoughts to Monique Corbin in the spirit of #SayHerName.
Though here for only a season
Like seeds blown prematurely
Her impact is significant.
She loved students
Guided them lovingly
As she lifted her chin and tilted her wrapped head to wonder…
What do you need?
How can I help you?
Forsaking some rules to protect the most vulnerable…
I am reading two books:
Their subtexts are as important as the title banners under which they fall…
How [do] we grow the world we want and
[How can we use] Vulnerability, shame resilience and the Black experience
As a source for our health, wealth, healing, recovery and repair…
In conversation with each other, the answer rests therein…herein…in these books, on these pages…in concert and as a collection. In solidarity and digested with intention.
This thought, these lines from BB:
“When you say, ‘I don’t trust any antiracism work that doesn’t embrace and see our humanity,’ I can feel the call for love. I get it so fully right now. It’s like you’re telling us that if you don’t see the heart and the love and the humanity and the joy of the Black experience–of Black humanity–then the antiracism work is bankrupt.” (p. xx) and the response of TB:
“I don’t want to talk about how this thing really bothers me–but I need to and I can only do that with some semblance of safety. I want this book to be a soft place to land. ‘Give our humanity breathing room.'” (p. xxi).Burke, T., & Brown, B. (Eds.). (2021). You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience. Random House.
The reminders that our ‘bodies tell stories that our mouths will never speak. A paraphrase of a subtitle on the chapter titled WEATHER…I feel this. (Benjamin, R. (2022). Viral Justice: How We Grow the World We Want. Princeton University Press).
The key to our health and wellness is our stories and our truths…
Purging ourselves of these pains and these hurts…
In solidarity, collection and cooperation with our selves…
We are human and want to do more than survive.
We deserve this.
Rest in peace Monique.